Investing in Your Marriage

Are you a financial wizard? Do you know the ins and outs of money, transactions, purchases, loans and expenses? I sure don't. But I bet we both know what it means to invest in something.

We both know the traditional way we invest is with our money in something like property or shares in something. But what does it mean when it comes to our marriages?

Let's begin by taking a look at a dictionary definition of the word "invest".

"to devote (one's money, time, effort, or energy) to a particular undertaking with the expectation of a worthwhile result"

Making an investment can clearly relate to our marriages just as much as it does to finances.

We women wear so many hats. We are busy, busy, busy with plenty going on and never enough time to get it all done. It can be hard in the day to day to have time to sit down and really take time to invest in our marriages. But I promise you it's 100% worth it.

Besides your relationship with God, the relationship you have with your husband is the most important one you have! This special bond God joined together needs to come before work, church, sport, hobbies, your homemaking, other family members and even your kids!

I think we are all pretty convinced that taking time and effort and pouring that into our marriage is worth it right? I mean, this is the guy you married. That guy you thought was the cutest ever and absolutely adored. I know you want to have a wonderful, thriving relationship with him. Or you probably wouldn't have clicked this link.

But how can we invest more in our marriages? We want to. Our heart is in the right place. We love our husbands. Now how do we do it?

Let's look at that dictionary definition again.

"to devote (one's money, time, effort, or energy) to a particular undertaking with the expectation of a worthwhile result"

Money, time, effort and energy. These are the things that need to be poured into our marriages to make them really thrive. Let's dive into these four elements and look at some practical ways we can really invest in our marriages.

 

Money.

Now I know money can be tight ladies. Trust me I get it. We don't have a whole stack of money lying around to invest in our marriages. As lovely as it would be we can't always afford extravagant weekends away on an exclusive island in the tropics. Fortunately there are much more affordable ways we can invest financially into our marriages.

Buying books on marriage can be a really great way for you to invest in your marriage. They usually aren't really expensive and have a lot of really thought provoking ideas for couples to think about and talk about together.

There are also some great online and in person courses you can find about marriage that are really worth the time and money.

Hire a babysitter if you have children so you can get some quality one on one time outside of your normal day to day environment.

If you really don't have any money in the budget to do any of these ideas right now then I suggest saving up. Get a little change jar or piggy bank and whenever you get a coin or two put it in there. Save it up. Eventually you'll have some money for you to do something fun together. Plus it's been an exciting project you've both worked on together to get this little investment.

Time.

Now I know what you're thinking. You don't have a heap of this either. But honestly it's worth it. Try and set aside one hour a week. Just one hour. Out of the whole 168 hours there are in your week. Even this relatively small time investment will make a really big difference to your marriage.

This time doesn't have to be spent on anything grand. It could be time for you to play a board game, cook a meal together, read a book together or just have a chat! So long as it's interactive and uninterrupted.

Effort.

This really goes without saying. Some days you can't be bothered with anything. But we know effort is required in our marriages.

We can show our husbands effort on lots of ways. We can go out of our way to do little things for him.

You could write him a little note to put in his lunch. You could make a special dinner for him every so often that might require a bit more work than usual. You could plan a fun activity for the two of you.

These things show you're putting in extra effort just for him. They make him feel loved and special to you. That'll most certainly help you both to feel more connected to each other.

Energy.

Giving each other your energy is important. Days can be long and tiring for sure but there is nothing worse than when you're trying to tell your someone something important and his eyes are glazed over or closed and at best you get grunts as a response.

Try to give your spouse energy. Actively listen and engage in conversation. Do fun interactive things together. Be passionate and excited about the things you do or talk about.

Often if one person is enthusiastic and energetic and can actually lift up the mood of the other person.

 

So why do we invest in something? Because our expectation is a worthwhile result. What we can expect from our marriages if we invest in them is a strong, loving relationship that we can cherish for eternity.

How are you going to invest in your marriage today? 

Lydia x