James and I have been talking about leaving the city for a while now.
We want to head out to the country and live a more simple and relaxed life away from the hustle and bustle of Christchurch.
We had it in the cards that we might look at moving when our lease runs out on our house in October. We were kind of just starting to think about this transition and how we could do it in the least daunting way possible.
The thing about moving out into the country is that there aren't many jobs available. So when one comes up that is perfect for you would have to be crazy to turn it down!
Well a job came up. And it's perfect for me.
I interviewed. I got the position. And it starts in a week and a half.
So I'm moving. In a week and a half.
Needless to say this brings about a pretty huge feeling of overwhelm. It's a big transition to make with a week and a half notice! And moving to the country isn't the only transition I have to make.
James's job is still in the city. So I'm going ahead and moving without him for at least a month or two. Living without my husband is also going to be a big transition!
So when life throws you curve balls and leaves you feeling a little dazed and extremely overwhelmed what do we do? How do we cope with the sudden change which is going to turn our lives kind of upside down?
Well there's going to be different answers for different transitions. Buying a house is not going to look the same as losing a loved one. Having a baby won't be the same as getting a new job. All of these are big life changes and all of these can be overwhelming and scary in their own way.
Although they're all different I've found a few things that can apply across the board that help us deal with all the sticky situations that life can throw at us.
Five Things To Remember in Times of Transition
My number one suggestion in these big scary transitions is to pray. Prayer is powerful. When you need some help, comfort or guidance who better than from the Almighty?
James 5:16 Says “the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” If you sincerely come to God in prayer He will hear you. And it can do a lot.
Give yourself some time to think over the situation. You don't have to be all good with it straight away.
You may need some space to grieve. This doesn't just apply to grieving for a loved one. Sometimes you need to grieve over moving. You might have grown attached to the home you lived in or your community.
Having a baby is a big deal. It's a really exciting time but it's a big change. You are allowed to give yourself some time to feel a little sad about the life you're leaving behind as you move into parenthood. That's okay.
Disclaimer: I am not saying to just sit and wallow in despair for days and months and years. But do allow yourself the correct amount of time for you and for your situation to feel your feelings and then move on.
Ask for help
Don't be afraid to ask someone to help you. I am certainly going to ask friends and family for help with the move. If you've got a new job and are totally lost its okay to seek assistance. As the old English proverb "many hands makes light work" says having others to help makes the task at hand a whole lot easier.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It shows you are wise enough to know what you need.
Talk it out
Sometimes you just need to vent. And that's okay. Choose someone you trust and let it out. Sometimes people who aren't in the heat of the situation can see it from a different perspective. And sometimes as you prattle it all out at people you stumble across the answer yourself without anyone saying anything!
Just having someone to chat to can make a tricky situation seem a lot less overwhelming.
Last but not least, give yourself some grace. We all go through these big challenging transitions at some stage or another. We all get overwhelmed and freak out. We all fail.
Don't make the situation harder by choosing not to forgive yourself for your weakness in the midst of your trial. Learn from it, seek forgiveness and move on. We all need a bit of grace!
So when life throws you a curve ball (and it inevitably will) keep these 5 things in mind. Pray to God. Give yours some time to process. Ask someone to help you. Talk it out. And give yourself some grace!
Are you going through and major transitions in your life at the moment? Do you have any more advice for those in the midst of change right now?